Friday, August 28, 2015

Destroy Your Dreams

Bel Pesces is a Brazilian native who has worked in many career fields. She has worked for Google, Microsoft, Deutsche Bank, and many startup projects such as Ooyala and Lemon Wallet. She has also published 3 best-selling books, The Brazilian Girl From Silicon Valley, Superheoes:WANTED, and The Girl From Silicon Valley. If that wasn't enough, she also has a degree from MIT for Computer Science and Management. All in all, I think it is safe to say that she has a very successful career path. Recently, though, she has gone back to Brazil and opened a school, FazINOVA, to help inspire people. In this TED talk, she goes over five myths that people believe about success, and she tells people how to 'Destroy Their Dreams.'

The first myth Bel points out is belief in overnight success. This will get you nowhere. You don't just wake up successful one day. Nobody does, no matter how many times you hear about people who are 'overnight successes'. If you are seemingly successful overnight, it's because you've been working for that success up to that moment. When life gives that moment to succeed, you have to be prepared to take it. Always be vigilant.

The second way to 'destroy your dreams' is to think that somebody has the answers for you, or to let somebody decide your life. You need to decide what choices are right for you. Nobody knows your life like you do. They don't have the right answers, you do. To be successful, you have to take an active part in achieving the success. You can't just lay back and let someone guide you to success. You have to make your own success.

The third false idea is that you should settle down when things are going well. This is a recipe for disaster. Things don't stay perfect forever. This is why you should strive to keep on going, to expand your horizons. Keep on pushing yourself past your boundaries, and you'll discover new success. Keep going, and you'll see things that you couldn't before. Why else would the earth be round? As Mrs. Pesce says, "You need to find another peak."

The fourth point Bel Pesce makes is believing that it is never your fault, but that somebody else made a mistake. It's not an investor's fault that you didn't get their money, it is yours. No one can achieve success alone, but that doesn't automatically make it someone else's fault. First, look at what you could improve about your idea before pinning it on someone else. "If you have a dream, it is your responsibility for making it happen."

Finally, Bel warns against thinking that the dreams are the only things that matter. If you get too focused on achieving your dreams, soon your dreams are the only thing you'll have left. Dreams aren't just about that success, they are about the journey you took to get there. As she says, success is a moment of celebration, but life is not. Turn every step into something you can learn, and you will achieve your goals.

I really connect with the final point Bel makes in her speech, about believing that only the dreams matter. The journey to success is just as important as the dream that set you off. Success in a whole isn't just achieving your dreams, it is about what you learned on the journey as well. This whole speech reminds me of Abraham Lincoln. He was constantly pushing to better himself, like when, instead of settling down as an Illinois lawyer, he became President. And he always kept learning new things on the way to the White House. He read books on his own, taught himself everything he knew, as his family didn't have enough money to pay for school. He took it upon himself to learn. He didn't blame his parents for lack of education. He worked hard for everything he earned. In his words,"That some achieve great success, is proof to all that others can achieve it as well."

Monday, August 24, 2015

Why We Laugh reaction

     The result given to me by the TED test was the comedian. I was given a TED talk called "Why We Laugh". The speaker was a British woman named Sophie Scott. Her speech was about studying the primal reactions behind real and posed laughter.
     Mrs. Scott starts the scientific part of the talk by explaining what's happening in your rib cage when you breathe, talk, and laugh. Sophie then talks about laughter and its source, saying,"Wherever you find it humans, primates, rats, you find associated with things like tickling.....things like play...things with interactions." She also says," Where you find most laughter is in social interaction." Mrs. Scott then talks about how both real laughter (uncontrollable, 'from-the-belly', tickling, contagious) and posed laughter (polite, to show that you are interested or enjoying something) is linked to being with others, to show them that you connect with them in a certain way. Mrs. Scott then concludes by talking about how we 'use' laughter as a tool to reduce stress, and make bad situations seem good.
     At first glance, I thought that I would not like this particular talk very much. But at the end, I really started to connect with how we use laughter to make ourselves happy, and to show others that we relate to them. Instead of just the science of laughter, Sophie Scott got into the social science of laughter, and how much we use it around people. Laughter is a way we reduce stress and make ourselves feel happy. I enjoyed this talk, and would suggest it to anyone who feels like there is more to laughter than just the compression of our rib cage.
Go check it out!